Why Women Fear of Sex Toys and Sex Toy Shops. Self pleasure denial is real. Three hidden reasons why.
Women and Fear of Sex Toys and Sex Toy Shops. Could this be something more?
Women from all nationalities and walks of life deal with their personal struggles daily but fear of self pleasure, masturbation and intimacy devices IE sex toys should not be one of them. Many women avoid self pleasure for various reasons. We seem to have an unnatural fear of self pleasure.
As women, why do we deprive ourselves of self pleasure? Perhaps you may fall into one of the reasoning below. All of which can be debunked and are no reason to deprive yourself anymore! Unless you’re into self-deprivation ,which many women are sadly, and even if you are, then this article is for you.
Your inability to enjoy yourself sexually may be a clue to deeper rooted issues that are surfacing.
Sexual self worth – yes its a real thing!
Satisfaction in sexual deprivation – Sexual Anorexia
Sexual wellness isn’t for the rich. It’s for everyone. And thanks to sexy self pleasure and sexual healing companies like JimmyJane, there’s an absolute pricing array for the simple cost conscious beginner to the connoisseur and purveyor of the sexually erotic with that “I’LL FIND” the money attitude, there is a sensual selection for everyone! For under $50 bucks and believe me honey YOU ARE WORTH IT! You can create an unbelievable self pleasuring experience!
Here are my Cindy Peach JimmyJane picks for the cost conscious beginner.
Let’s start off by creating an experience. This activity is a celebration of you and relaxation is key.
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Now that the mood is right and the candles are lit, it’s time to get a bit more intimate…
With its elongated shape, ICONIC SMOOTHIE is quite versatile. For many, this popular design is what springs to mind when a vibrator is mentioned. New to sex accessories? ICONIC SMOOTHIE makes an unintimidating and inexpensive starting point for pleasure.
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Getting Started – Twist the cap of ICONIC SMOOTHIE clockwise to turn it on and increase the intensity. Tapered & Seamless – Experience vibration anywhere and everywhere. External for Her – Any part of ICONIC SMOOTHIE above the cap can be used to stimulate the clitoris. You can also nestle it lengthwise between the labia to reach multiple areas at once. Anal Tease – Use any part of ICONIC SMOOTHIE above the cap to massage the anus. You can also nestle it lengthwise between the cheeks and along the back of the perineum and testicles Water Play – Bring ICONIC SMOOTHIE into the bath tub, hot tub or pool – just be sure that the cap is securely closed. Travel – Slim and discreet, ICONIC SMOOTHIE can be easily stashed in your suitcase, handbag or carry-on. Pro-Tip: Remove the batteries before you pack it away.
Let’s officially scratch “cost” off the list of reasons to not indulge in self pleasure & the amazing world of sex toys & sex toy shops! Thanks to the sleek and sexy JimmyJane you can feel beyond loved and satisfied for under $50 bucks!
Sexual self worth/Sexual self esteem
Yes, sexual self worth is a real thing and yes yours deserves your attention. I’m not talking about when your partner looks at you and tells you how beautiful you are or how fucking sexy you are. I’m talking about when YOU look at yourself. Are you telling yourself the same things? If so are you believing them? If not you may suffer from various types of dysfunctions that may deserve professional medical attention, as low sexual self worth or sexual self esteem may stem from other deep rooted issues.
When you’re alone it’s OK to massage your skin and feel self loved. Not only do you deserve it – it’s your right. It’s OK while in the shower you USE that multi-headed nozzle for other adventurous activities. It’s your body, it’s your clitoris and it was given to you for a reason.
If you read this article, then took to the shower, or let you fingers massage that aching clitoris and you feel like a sexual bad ass for you (most importantly) and your partner awesome- HIGH FUCKING FIVE TO YOU! However, If these reasons above just aren’t doing it for you, do NOT be afraid to call a local licensed therapist in your area, as stated in Women’s Health. You deserve happiness. Complete happiness.There may be deeper rooted issues which you should not tread alone and this is in no way a replacement for medical help. Securing a licensed professional may just be the key to unlocking your sexual self worth and ticket to freedom.
Our sexual self worth or sexual self esteem has officially been put on notice! WE SEE YOU SEXUAL SELF ESTEEM AND SELF WORTH AND WE HAVE OUR EYE ON YOU!
That’s right! We understand it’s OK to be a sexual bad ass and/or get help as soon as possible! Both of these paths (whichever works best for you) are incredibly empowering! Let’s put a check mark by this one for keeping our Sexual self worth and sexual self esteem in CHECK!
Satisfaction in sexual deprivation – Sexual Anorexia
Whoever knew, not having the desire to sexually satisfy one self could be so telling of other deeper rooted self phenomena!
Just as there are people who battle and suffer from Food Anorexia disorders, there are others that have acquired the desensitizing restrictive habit of Sexual Anorexia in which they become sex starved. Sexual Anorexia as published by Dr. Douglas Weiss in his 1998 book Sexual Anorexia, Beyond Sexual, Emotional and Spiritual Withholding, typically refers to “the active, almost compulsive withholding of emotional, spiritual and sexual intimacy from the primary partner” as seen on https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-excess/201406/sex-starved
Both habits of Food Anorexia and sexual anorexia mimic each other in behavior so it’s easy to see how such comparison can be made. They are essentially one in the same.
The 12-Step group Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous offers this definition and analogy: “As an eating disorder, anorexia is defined as the compulsive avoidance of food. In the area of sex and love, anorexia has a similar definition: Anorexia is the compulsive avoidance of giving or receiving social, sexual, or emotional nourishment”.
Dr. Carnes defines sexual anorexia as: “an obsessive state in which the physical, mental and emotional task of avoiding sex dominates one’s life. Like self-starvation with food, deprivation with sex can make one feel powerful and defended against all hurts.” In a 1998 paper in the journal Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity, he also notes that: “the term “sexual anorexia” has been used to describe sexual aversion disorder [in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders], a state in which the patient has a profound disgust and horror at anything sexual in themselves and others”.
The terminology however, Sexual Anorexia, is not new, it’s been around according to Wikipedia for almost 35 years.
The 1998 paper published in the journal Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity by Dr. Carnes quotes some of the most interesting finds:
• 67 percent reported a history of sexual abuse
• 41 percent reported a history of physical abuse
• 86 percent reported a history of emotional abuse
• 65 percent reported members of the immediate family as some type of addict
• 40 percent reported having a sex addict in the immediate family
• 60 percent described their family as “rigid”
• 67 percent described their family as “disengaged”
Do you think or your partner suffer from Sexual Anorexia? If so, you can take this simple test that I found at the Freedom In Grace website. The test seems to based off of the published works of Weiss and Carnes. If you endorse five or more of the following nine statements “you or your partner may be currently struggling with sexual anorexia” and possibly should seek outside therapeutic help. Remember there’s no shame in getting help to help you take control!
• Withholding love from partner
• Withholding praise or appreciation from partner
• Controlling by silence or anger
• Ongoing or ungrounded criticism causing isolation
• Withholding sex from your partner
• Unwillingness or inability to discuss feelings with partner
• Staying so busy that they have no relational time for the partner
• Making the problems or issues about your partner instead of owning their own issues
• Controlling or shaming partner with money issues
Another check added to our list! Self pleasure will soon be ours! Remember if you or your partner experience signals of Sexual Anorexia, seek help from a licensed professional sexual therapist!